Love and Obsession

So as per Psychologist...I need to understand Love and Obsession... She says... Love means..

"Loving someone means we don't need  them but instead we want to share our lives with them, and most importantly we want to support them on their life' journey. That means giving them the foundation to let them go and be whatever is going to allow them to grow as people and to fully experience life. There is a huge difference from "you have to stay with me no matter what" or "you can't do this to me" to "I'm here loving you; go try out life".

And she says obsession means..
"In obsessive relationships it is all about us not the other person. And in a strange way, even though these relationships are all about us, we have no power. By needing someone we give our power away and sometimes the recipients can be quite cruel; a game that gets set up: I give you my life and you can abuse it because the truth is I'm needy and you resent me for that."

At the end she said...

Bear in mind that changing controlling behaviors takes time and progress should not be expected to occur over night. By reaching out for support, the relationally dependent person is really reaching in. Sadly for most people who suffer from RD, the only way they can get off their chaotic wheel is by jumping onto a new one.


Now I have to decide Is that love or obsession. This is never obsession. He was always the king. He always did what he wanted. He has a strong controlling powers. I cant do above what defines Love. How can I let him go... How can I say I don't need him. I tried to share everything with him from my Traffic Ticket to cell biology politics travels food games movies friendship sex shopping computers news business  but he ignored it and burnt my gifts right in front of my eyes.... saying..these are your birthday gifts...see it...
I always did as shown in the definition of love. I was always trying to give him with believe that hardly there will be a return. My job was just giving and giving and giving. I survived on one hope.  I respected the most painful acts M and W and Twisted.  Who said I did not love him. who on this planet will let her love to meet other girls ... who will kill own desires and groom her love OK now you are ready and enjoy other women...and than burning in flames seeing him ignoring you and sticking to his choice... So I loved him.  I was not getting anything. I was just giving him...  My Job was just to serve him food and dinner and breakfast and whisky and wines and money and clothing and driving. But he kept seeing me crying He could not resolve it.
I was still same.. I remained the same...Who said I did not love him..

I believe I have obsession. But I will never admit that I just think about myself. I have just one thing I miss him so much...  He is gone to other girls..other women other friends ....


Sometime he let me to come to his zone   ..sometime he pushes me miles and miles away from his zone.. why you rush me...babie....his favorite song become mine too...The Zone...
Oh my God this is never ending Love. I declined first advise of the psychologist...
Anyway she was just.. trying to differentiate love and obsession
And I say I both have love and obsession. He complained that I don't give him freedom. I deny..He is always king..He always do what he wants...I just beg him always and wait for his mercies...
And the tip to Jump other relationships ..I did it ..just to  forget him and let him free but I felt so guilt...my brain just want two things...to love him or die and leave this world....my brain don't want another option..and i want to prove that my love is so true and keep sticking on your love.how can I prove my love by searchig other guys..I will be a fake person.... I want to.be loyal to my love..let him fulfill his desires..let him enjoy whatever he wanted..free him but don't stop chasing him. don't leave him ever. keep waiting his mercies ... because he is oxygen to me.
What should I do... I love him so much...he say I don't know the meaning of love...
I love him so much...sticking between love and obsession